The first step in becoming Supermom is becoming a super human being. These principles apply to all people. But we moms need them more.
1. I am good enough. I am smart enough. I am mom enough. And gosh darn it, people like me. Or at least my kids do. Or at least they will until they're teenagers. At which point it doesn't matter anymore if they like me or not. Really.
2. I am not my kids. My kids are not me. We are separate people. I cannot control them, and I can influence them less than I think I can. They make their own choices, which only marginally reflect on me.
3. I am not my house. My house is not me. Cleaning the house is the responsibility of everyone who lives in it, not just me. A dirty house is not a reflection on my character.
4. I am not my friends. My friends are not me. Whether or not my friend breastfeeds, bottlefeeds, sleep trains, works at a 9 to 5 job, stays home all day, goes to the park, lets her kids watch tv, eats donuts, or wears a superhero cape is not a judgement on my choices. I can choose to do the opposite and still be friends with her.
5. I am not my body. My looks are not me. Who I am is not dependent on my appearance. Whether I wear makeup or lose my baby weight or dress well or have stretch marks is not a reflection on my character. What I do is more important than how I look.
6. I am doing the best I can. That is all I can expect of myself. On some days, my best is better than other days. That is not a reflection on my character. It is usually a reflection of how well my kids slept last night.
7. I will be kind to every mom I meet. We are all fighting the same battle.